Divorce is something you can’t fully prepare for, and one of the most challenging early steps is deciding if, or how, to inform your spouse about your intentions. You may feel guilty, anxious, or even fearful about their reaction.
Should you have a direct conversation with them or avoid discussing it until legal processes begin? How should you broach the subject? Here are some essential tips and considerations.
Transparency can be helpful
Notifying your spouse may be ideal if you don’t want them to find out about the impending divorce from a third party or through legal paperwork. It also sets a foundation for a more cooperative approach, especially if there are shared responsibilities like parenting involved. However, it may not be ideal in some cases.
Weigh your approach
Consider your spouse’s personality and your relationship dynamic. A direct conversation could work well if they are likely to react calmly. However, if you think they may respond negatively or lash out, it may be wiser to take a different approach.
Keep it simple and direct
When you’re ready to talk, be straightforward but compassionate. You do not need to go into all the reasons for your decision at that moment. A simple explanation should be enough, but give your spouse time to process and ask questions. Be ready to listen, too.
Prepare for the legal process
Learning more about how the divorce process works in Virginia, from dividing marital assets like retirement accounts to deciding child custody and support, is crucial. It can help you begin early preparations to navigate the process confidently.
Having qualified legal guidance can be invaluable during this life-changing moment. Divorce can be overwhelming, and you do not want to make mistakes that could work against you. Before speaking with your spouse, schedule a meeting with an attorney to obtain appropriate guidance and legal information.
